Hello again, everyone!
I hope your week has been great so far.
This is a very vulnerable post for me to write, but it's been weighing quite heavy on my heart, and I just feel like I am supposed to write about this. I have always struggled with believing other girls like me and can relate to me. I love getting to know people and hearing about their stories, but it's so hard to believe other girls actually want to be my friend. I know I am not the only person who feels insecure about herself and I just want to encourage you.
I've always joked that I am a bit of a lone wolf. I don't need a big group of people to feel good about myself. I like being independent and am completely comfortable by myself. However, as human beings, we were created for community and fellowship. We need strong relationships in order to grow to become the best versions of ourselves possible. My small group of close friends have taught me so many life lessons. We have eaten together, laughed together, cried together, and celebrated milestones together. I just could not imagine life without them. While I do enjoy being alone too, I need my friends just as much. Don't believe the lie that no one will ever understand you and that it's better to be a lone wolf. Sometimes it just takes time to find the right people. Not every single person will be your best friend and that's okay too.
Part of finding a great group of friends is to be a good friend. Who wants to be friends with someone who is selfish, negative, and/or unreliable? Honesty, loyalty, and generosity go a very long way. All of us (myself definitely included) need to be mindful of the energy we put out. Are we always complaining about something? Do we call/text back on time? Do we ask about how our friends' days/lives are going before sharing anything about ourselves? Being a good friend matters. No one wants to hang out with someone they feel they can't trust.
True friends want to know about how your life is going. Sometimes they ask difficult and/or personal questions. It is so important we learn how to be vulnerable and honest. True friends don't ask those types of questions to offend you or criticize you. They ask those questions because they want to cultivate a deeper relationship with you. I understand some of us are more reserved and private than others, but once you find your close knit group of friends, it is important to trust them by letting them into your life. It may feel uncomfortable at first, but the end result of having a group of people who continually encourages you, loves you, and cares about you is always worth it.
And last but certainly not least: Your worth should never ever be defined by the number of likes or followers you have. Those things are nice, but they are not a reliable indicator of friendship. Real friends do a lot more than pushing a "like" button. Real friends are just as active (if not more) in person than social media/screens. It may take time to find those people, but they are definitely out there and getting to know them always leads to a richer and fuller life.
We were created for fellowship. We are called to be good friends to others. We are worthy of love.
XOXO
Chloe
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